Women want what they know they can't have. (Please, no feminist rebuttals, everything I'm going to say can be true of many men as well, and nothing I'm going to say is absolutely true of all women. I'm a sociologist, I talk about trends.) Initially, it appears that this is due to the fact that most men that no woman can have got that way by being the kind they would want regardless, but I find there are deeper psychological motivations behind these attractions on the part of the attracted that supercede the simple attractiveness of the receiving party. Primarily, they know that if they can never have it, they'll never have it to lose, which is a principle concern of the fairer sex. They know he'll always be there and that they can't screw it up. At least when they realize that I was right about the fact that relationships are nothing but a hassle, they like this idea of being with a guy they can't have. In fact the knowledge of a man's inaccesability can actually make him much more accessible. With me, for example, they know that I catagorically avoid relationships, but that doesn't mean I don't like chilling with them. So they know that we can hang out and flirt and have as much fun as we want without it having to mean we're trying to be in a relationship. (Note: I'm not saying I'm in the same catagory as Orlando Bloom; I'm unattainable because I just don't do relationships, but feel free to convince me that I'm appealing enough to be considered unattainable for the same reasons as Orlando Bloom.) It's much more stable than getting involved with a regular guy because there's no precedent there. With most guys in whom they may take an interest, they feel like they have to ask him out or something and then they feel obligated to go through with something, but if they know they can't have him in that way, then they know it's safe. Especially for those types that really aren't prepared for a relationship, either the emotional or physical aspect of such, an attraction of this kind is both natural and appropriate. And thus is the deep psychological meaning behind the appeal of celebrities that goes beyond the fact that they're so damn good-looking. So when I say that women want what they can't have, I'm not talking about the fanciful fantasies of your whimsical gender, but rather a psychological defense mechanism that draws you toward a safe attraction where you subconsciously know he won't start a relationship, designed to protect you from being hurt or forced into a bad situation.
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